being gay: choice or born with it???

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Permalink Reply by nathan chamberlain on June 17, 2009 at 12:49am

i mean bad not bed lol........

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Permalink Reply by doll on June 17, 2009 at 12:50am

haha,i would love to help u if only i could
don't worry u will some day i'm shore

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Permalink Reply by nathan chamberlain on June 17, 2009 at 12:52am

well hopefully that day will come soon

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Permalink Reply by doll on June 17, 2009 at 12:56am

yea,hopefully it will for me too :(

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Permalink Reply by nathan chamberlain on June 17, 2009 at 1:24am

Y IS A PRETTY GIRL LIKE U STILL SINGLE??

Permalink Reply by Deaths Angel on June 17, 2009 at 1:48am

i say ur born with it. but when some one (rarly)just got dumped by the love of their life, they may think about goin gay/bi. i think i know why, i just cant put it into words.

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Permalink Reply by Samantha on June 17, 2009 at 2:26am

Its neither. Your not born with it cuz ur to young to understand what it means and its not a choice, You cant chose who you fall in love love with it doesnt work like that. You just fall for a person of a certain sex and go with it. You cant chose and you can try to change it all you want but it just... its not like that.. And your right at the end you cant just go back and forth and just change your mind.

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Permalink Reply by Incompertus on June 17, 2009 at 3:03am

I definitely think its a choice. Backed up by hormones.

Come on peoples, calm your hormonic devices.

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Permalink Reply by nathan chamberlain on June 17, 2009 at 3:11am

let me tell u something u little pink headed thing u r not gay so u wouldnt know it is not a choice and people (like u ) need to get that through there heads this is not the right to mess with me missy....

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Permalink Reply by Incompertus on June 17, 2009 at 3:17am

Your messing with the wrong person at the wrong time.
"u r not gay" oh and you know this HOW? oh yeaaah. You don't know. You don't know shit about me. So instead of calling me a little pink headed thing then perhaps you should get your facts straight before running your mouth. Why would you ask for people's opinions if your going to act like a judgemental close-minded retarded moron? I said I THINK its a choice and I wouldnt say that if I didnt have a reason to back it up, which I do by the way, but will state later on because I am currently not in the mood to deal with low-lives such as yourself. Respect people's opinions you jerk.

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Permalink Reply by nathan chamberlain on June 17, 2009 at 3:23am

well then u do the same u really dont have the slightst idea about the gay community i am 15 years old i think i have known myself long enough to know who i really am. so dont tell me i dont know who i am because u r not me and u dont know shit about me. so.....

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Permalink Reply by Incompertus on June 17, 2009 at 2:12pm

What the hell? When did I ever say that you don't know who you are? Oh now your putting words in my mouth too?
This seemingly sensitive topic for you interests me as an accessible aspect of the wider question of nature vs.nurture. ''That homosexual behavior can be conditioned by environmental factors is likewise a matter of record; and empirically, it makes more sense to suggest that nurture exerts the greater influence. At the grave risk of over-simplification, I'll try to explain that statement. Anybody who doesn't need or feel like a Genetics 101 right now can skip the next few sentences.

Experimental evidence exists to suggest that there may exist some genetic factor that predisposes an individual towards homosexual behavior at birth; however, as any cognitive scientist will tell you, the brain you are born with alters massively during your lifetime - its morphology, particularly the morphology of the cerebellum, changes and these changes reflect the acquisition of experience.

I may for argument's sake be genetically predisposed to a fear of snakes, everyone else in my family did, but I have many snakes as pets, so in your face genetics; equally, if my father is a veterinarian and from an early age my play companions include his menagerie(a collection of live animals for study or display ), the predisposition may be overridden - I may even become a herpetologist(I think I spelled that wrong), despite my 'programming'. Neither genetics nor environment can seal my fate, nor yours.

So basically what I am saying in simplest terms is nature (genetics, Darwin's theory of natural selection, survival of the fittest etc..) Does not determine whether or not you will be homosexual/bisexual or heterosexual, in my opinion. Shall I repeat that? I said in MY OPINION. Clear enough for you? I believe what does determine your sexuality is, well, you!. I think all gay people made a conscious decision, whether out of sexual pleasure or a desire to be different. Everyone wants to stand out, to have some quality that makes them a little different from everyone else. (The downside of this is that everyone’s trying so hard to be different, that they all end up the same!) People “coming out” as bisexual in high school is not uncommon. I can’t speak for other people, but I strongly suspect that some students do this for the “shock factor”. You should be acknowledging the fact that sexuality is fluid and forever changing. What you like today may not be what you like tomorrow, or 10 years from now. On the other hand, what started as a choice could end up as a seemingly real and lasting-for-a-few-more-months-than-other-"loves"- love. I might be gay, or I might not be. That is for me to know and for you to never find out. I usually never say something without having something to back it up with. I hope my little pink head didn't distract you from reading this. But the way I see it is your attracted to whoever your attracted to, you like who you like. Why should it matter what sexual organs they have? Oh yeah, sexual pleasure, I forgot about that. So once again I will say calm your hormonic devices, lustful fools.(this is not directed at any one really)

On a side note, do not add me as a friend after insulting me and being a disrespectful assaholic jerk.


""The question of whether someone was "really" straight or "really" gay misrecognizes the nature of sexuality, which is fluid, not fixed, a narrative that changes over time. . . . It reveals sexuality to be a process of growth, transformation, and surprise, not a stable and knowable state of being." —Marjorie Garber, Vice Versa: Bisexuality and the Eroticism of Everyday Life, 1995 ""

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