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Permalink Reply by Sterling on August 18, 2009 at 6:08am

I'm very familiar with a lot of what you're going through. I don't think you even realize what a strong person you are. To make it through all of that in one piece takes incredible strength. My advice? When you're at that wedding, keep reminding yourself that you're stronger and better than your father. Only the weak beat on someone smaller than them. Only the morally-challenged would hurt their little girl. At only thirteen, you made it through hell in one piece all by yourself. Now you're older, and smarter, and you're not alone. You have a boyfriend who obviously cares about you a lot. As well as your grandma. Don't give your father any more power over you than he already has. He doesn't deserve it. You're so above him and his bullshit. Just remind yourself of that, keep it in perpective. And if you feel yourself slipping and you can't find anyone to talk you down, I'll be here for you. We'll just talk it out. It's more helpful than you might think. Like I said, I've had similar experiences and feelings, and I'm very empathetic and non-judgemental. I'm here for you any time you need me. You can do this.

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Permalink Reply by bloodsucker on August 18, 2009 at 5:53pm

thank you for the advice i will try and talk myself down and keep myself from giving in 2 my father but when i was 13 that was thelast time i was taken away i have beenin and out of foster care all my life then when my mom killed herself when i was six my hell on earth just got worse cause my sister started beating on me as well as my father

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Permalink Reply by Sterling on August 18, 2009 at 6:55pm

Wow. I'm so sorry you've had to go through that. You really got the shit end of the stick, didn't you? That just proves to me that what I said earlier is true. You are a very strong chick! I was in foster care, too. When I was a little kid. I was lucky, though. I was adopted by two of the most wonderful people in the world. But I remember the fear, the guilt, the self-doubt, etc. If there's anything I can do to help, please let me know.

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Permalink Reply by Crystal on August 18, 2009 at 6:30pm

Just think to yourself at the wedding you are stronger than him.

You stopped hurting the person you loved by stopping hurting yourself.

He had to be stopped hurting you you took that control sadly he could not.

You know you can get through this.

Good luck.

Blessed be

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Permalink Reply by bloodsucker on August 19, 2009 at 3:06am

thanks to all of you its nice to have people who understand what your talking about.

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