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Is it too soon?

My girlfriend and I are in our teens. She is sixteen, and I am fourteen, but I am madly, deeply in love to the point that within five seconds of not seeing her, I miss her. Her and I have decided that as soon as we're both out of highschool, we're going to get married. We both have three more years. I will graduate sixteen turning seventeen, and she will gradutate eighteen turning nineteen. Is it too soon to decide my love for the rest of my life?

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Permalink Reply by The Spook on October 8, 2009 at 5:05pm: According to "Teenage Couples: Caring, Change, and Commitment", by Jeanne Warren Lindsay:

More than 60% of teenage marriages fail within 5 years.

Eleanor H. Ayer's writes in her book, Teen Marriage, that:

"A girl married at 17 is twice as likely to be divorced as a girl 18 or 19. If a girl waits until she is 25 the chances that her marriage will last are 4 times better. Saying No to your partner as a teenager does not mean saying No forever. Why start out with the odds against you?"

If you are truly in love, that love will still be there waiting when you are ready and mature enough to deal with the problems and issues of marriage.

Read more, learn more before you decide: http://www.wholefamily.com/aboutteensnow/relationships_peers/crushe...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Cifer on October 8, 2009 at 5:16pm: You don't have to be married to truly love your partner. It's thought of as the ultimate declaration of love yes, but speaking from experiance, love gets put under stress even with the strongest of bonds in teenage life and growing up.
If you truly love each other and feel it's worth the persuit then good luck to you, but marriage can also provide unexpected stress...
As you say though it's got some years ahead of it, and if you still feel as strongly as you do now, then it just may be right for you.
I guess I'm speaking from my perspective in that it just wouldn't have worked for me at the same age.. but I hope it does work for you and you find happiness in whatever you choose.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Cinderella♥'s_Blood on October 14, 2009 at 3:41pm: Thank you very much for the advice. At first I was a little confused, but now I get it.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Fervor Winchester on October 9, 2009 at 12:59am: yes.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Jean-Luc on October 30, 2009 at 11:05am: I believe that in reality it is up 2 u. If you love this girl so much, and believe that she is the one then go for it, but if you dont then dont rush it. Look inot your heart and you will know; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Cinderella♥'s_Blood on November 2, 2009 at 10:24pm: Thank you. I can feel it with all of me. I mean, I even cry when I get off the phone with her.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by RaWr~Destinee~RaWr on November 2, 2009 at 10:27pm: I don't think their is any age limit?; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Cinderella♥'s_Blood on November 3, 2009 at 1:16pm: Well that depends on what exactly you're talking about. If it's to get married, 16 or younger with parents permission or in one state, 16 and pregnant, and that's a little hard for me. One, I'm not pregnant cause it's a chick, two, my mother hates her, but my mother hates me as well so,...who knows.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Fallen Angel on November 3, 2009 at 3:31am: woah yes way to early i decided that about my boyfriend of almost a year then he went and dumped my ass he said he didnt love me to begin with so dont try it he was 17 and i was 15 i am 16 now we decided it was a one way relationship from teh start so he let me go and i was broken he was my longest relationship. we broke up in february of this year and since then i have had 7 or 8 relationships because i was desperate...dont deicde your love when your this young it will just hurt oyu...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Cinderella♥'s_Blood on November 3, 2009 at 1:18pm: Well, I don't know how to describe it, but I really do feel like she's the one. I mean, I';ve kissed A LOT of people, and I've only felt "the spark" with her. I hate getting off the phone with her. She knows a lot about my life that not many people do. Only two people including her know all three of my deepest darkest secrets. She is true to me, and I am true to her. Leaving her would hurt me.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Fallen Angel on November 3, 2009 at 8:07pm: i understand that sorry i was just venting my problems and this seemed like the place to do it but i tend to release my problems on random people on the internet i'm sorry you should totally say that you want to marry her then and if you both have decided that tthen your perfect for each other but dont go crying to us when you if you break up because all i can say is i todl you so young love hurts...it sucks i know the truth sucks but its gotta be said it might not last forever...; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Cinderella♥'s_Blood on November 4, 2009 at 1:13pm: I understand your point. And I won't. I don't cry to anyone except myself. See, if I did, I'd be the retarded one because then it'd prove them right, and me wrong, and who likes to be wrong? no one.

Go ahead and vent. Venting is good. I would know, but you know, that's why they have counsillers. I have two.; ▶ Reply to This