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Pressured for sex?

I'm 15, almost 16, and have been seeing my bf, Tom, for about six months now. I care about him a lot and it was going really great until about three weeks ago.
We usually make out, that's not an issue but for weeks he's made it clear that he wants more than that and the longer it goes on the more pressure I feel I'm under to deliver. It's just I don't think I'm ready to have sex yet but if I don't I'm scared I'll lose him. I tried telling him but he just keeps replying with reassurances 'it'll be fine, I won't hurt you' or whatever but he's just not getting my point of view.

What should I do?

Tags: pressure, relationships, sex

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Permalink Reply by Hazel on October 29, 2009 at 10:21am: I've read through what everyone is saying and thank you to everyone because it's helped me clear my head. I do love Tom, and I do think he loves me too. I will talk to him and tell him how I feel, I think it'll be better if I could get him away from his friends' influence for a while.
I agree sex shouldn't be rushed but sometimes stuff happens that confuses you and other things contribute to your decision. I trust Tom and I guess I just have to believe that everything will work out the way it should in the end.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Lamenting Angel on October 30, 2009 at 1:54am: I'm glad you will talk to him about this and yes things do happen but really as you said all you can do is hope everything will work out the way it should in the end.....with the best outcome hopefully.; ▶ Reply to This