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Permalink Reply by Lamenting Angel on August 27, 2009 at 6:44am

Ok relax a bit, She won't really change the way she shows emotions at least not for a long time so you will have to get used to that its not easy but can be done. The more you know her the more you'll be able to tell but the easiest way is watch her reactions her body language what she does that is the best way to tell what she is actually feeling. In my opinion sometimes cheesy is nice if you can make her laugh not so bad. As for the trust issues that will take time trust is not given its earned just give it time listen to her listen to your self and it should be ok.

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Permalink Reply by Nick... on August 30, 2009 at 10:32pm

thanks

ive known her all my life so i know her, but switching from friend to more than that is difficult you know?

never had to read her like that before you know?

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Permalink Reply by Lamenting Angel on August 31, 2009 at 1:45am

You're welcome,

So you have known her all your life that's a good start you should have a bit more footing in understanding what makes her tick then say a guy she just met and started dating use some of that knowledge it will help. But yes I know its difficult changing feelings for someone. But really she and you are still the same as you always have been just a different level of a connection she is still your friend you have known all your life and you are the same for her, Your partner should be your friend first that's where all things start really.

How long have you been in this type of relationship?

But yes I know reading her as a partner is something a bit different then just as a friend but I think with time and communication everything will be fine. Just remember to talk things out anything that bothers or worries you the same for her if she is able. As long as your both comfortable talking about such things don't force one to do something the other isn't ready for,understand?

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Permalink Reply by Nick... on September 5, 2009 at 6:55pm

we've been dating for a little over five months

and communication is a problem sometimes

i openly express what im thinking and my face gives me away if i dont ay anything

she is much more hesitate with her feelings
shes hidden them for so long its difficult for her to express them

see, her brother died when she was younger and she uses sarcasm and annoyance in place of what her feelings really are

im getting better at distinguishing what is true annoyance and what is concern that is masked by annoyance is that makes sense

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Permalink Reply by Lamenting Angel on September 5, 2009 at 8:04pm

Ok so its still a bit new for you both in that respect but that's ok. You don't like having her be able to read you like a book I take it then? Yes its very difficult for her to express them she is still hurting I'm sure from her brothers passing and she is scared of getting hurt again so she keeps people at a distance. Yes it does make sense and with more time you'll be able to tell better what are her true feelings.

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Permalink Reply by Nick... on September 6, 2009 at 5:46am

i can actually hide my feelings quite well but i figure if i show her what im feeling then she can figure out how to react to me

you know?
thank you very much for the help

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Permalink Reply by Lamenting Angel on September 28, 2009 at 4:04am

OPPS! sorry lost this one...=/ But yeah that sounds good. Yes I know it does help her and you're welcome.

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