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Relationships and cheating?
I just want to tell you a little "story".. You can see it as a warning or whatever you like...
Okay, so I was in this relationship for... I dont even know how long..
Alot of people here know the guy.. (Aaron, Zion, Darkness and whatever name he haves atm)..
Well, we were actually doing pretty fine.. At least that's what I thought..
I found out after some time that, while he was dating me, he was also dating his ex.. I was kinda shocked and not sure how to react on it..
Well, I ended it, after I was sure about him cheating.. (I even told his "ex" about it, but she thought I was making it all up. Apperently he had told her, that I was lying.. anyways)
I ended it, and he kept saying that he was sorry, and that I was the only one he loved..
Stupid as I was, I believed him, and we started dating again.. (After he promised that it was over with his ex)
And when I said stupid, I mean it, because he kept cheating.. We were on and off for some time.. (Off everytime he cheated and then on again after...)
The last time we got back together, he said that he would never do it again, because he really did love me.. But this time I didn't believe it..
I didn't love him anymore, but I stayed with him for some time.. I was scared of being alone..
But I knew he was still cheating on me, so, I figured I would use it for my own good, since he still thought he could hide it..
When we got back together the last time, I was writing an assignment for school about relationships and cheating.. I knew that he wouldn't change, so why not use that for my assignment...?
It actually ended up being a really good assignment..
When the assignment was over, I didn't see any reason for staying with him, so I told him the truth.. That I knew he was cheating and that I choose to use it for my own good..
We started arguing about it, and I asked him: "Do you think it's right to cheat?"
He didn't use long time on answering that.. "Yes, but no one should do it"..
I was speechless.. Untill he blamed his childhood without a father and friends.. Then I really got speechless.. How can you say that, that's the reason for cheating?
We kept arguing, and for some reason I found it rather entertaining.. He even told that he didn't believe in monogamy, but instead believed in polygamy.. (Monogamy: ONE partner - Polygamy: Several partners that knows about each other)
But that wasn't enough.. He also told that he had something against gay people.. Well, gay guys to be exact.. I knew he was only saying that trying to piss me off, because one of my best friends is gay.. (He was even jealous of him, because I talked with him more)
So, that was kind of what I had to say..
Exept: How would you have tackled a relationship like this?
Okay, so I was in this relationship for... I dont even know how long..
Alot of people here know the guy.. (Aaron, Zion, Darkness and whatever name he haves atm)..
Well, we were actually doing pretty fine.. At least that's what I thought..
I found out after some time that, while he was dating me, he was also dating his ex.. I was kinda shocked and not sure how to react on it..
Well, I ended it, after I was sure about him cheating.. (I even told his "ex" about it, but she thought I was making it all up. Apperently he had told her, that I was lying.. anyways)
I ended it, and he kept saying that he was sorry, and that I was the only one he loved..
Stupid as I was, I believed him, and we started dating again.. (After he promised that it was over with his ex)
And when I said stupid, I mean it, because he kept cheating.. We were on and off for some time.. (Off everytime he cheated and then on again after...)
The last time we got back together, he said that he would never do it again, because he really did love me.. But this time I didn't believe it..
I didn't love him anymore, but I stayed with him for some time.. I was scared of being alone..
But I knew he was still cheating on me, so, I figured I would use it for my own good, since he still thought he could hide it..
When we got back together the last time, I was writing an assignment for school about relationships and cheating.. I knew that he wouldn't change, so why not use that for my assignment...?
It actually ended up being a really good assignment..
When the assignment was over, I didn't see any reason for staying with him, so I told him the truth.. That I knew he was cheating and that I choose to use it for my own good..
We started arguing about it, and I asked him: "Do you think it's right to cheat?"
He didn't use long time on answering that.. "Yes, but no one should do it"..
I was speechless.. Untill he blamed his childhood without a father and friends.. Then I really got speechless.. How can you say that, that's the reason for cheating?
We kept arguing, and for some reason I found it rather entertaining.. He even told that he didn't believe in monogamy, but instead believed in polygamy.. (Monogamy: ONE partner - Polygamy: Several partners that knows about each other)
But that wasn't enough.. He also told that he had something against gay people.. Well, gay guys to be exact.. I knew he was only saying that trying to piss me off, because one of my best friends is gay.. (He was even jealous of him, because I talked with him more)
So, that was kind of what I had to say..
Exept: How would you have tackled a relationship like this?
Tags: cheating, homophobic, polygamy, relationship
Replies to This Discussion
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Permalink Reply by Stevie Eeles on -
cool. well i am off to bed. i got a massive migrane, i feel light headed, and im tired. BUT, you can always talk to me :) I have a profile for a reason. Good night :) x
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Permalink Reply by Xenia on -
lol.. Night night.. :] Sleep well..
(I should probably go to bed too? naah..) lol
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Permalink Reply by Onyx Nightshade on -
When you knew he was cheating, i wouldn't have gone back with him.Also, if he REALLY loved you, he wouldn't have been a cheater.
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Permalink Reply by Xenia on
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True, and I know now..
But... I cant remember what I wanted to write.. lala.. :]
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Permalink Reply by Girlycard on -
well youv done what you set out to do hun =3 nothing more and less, jsut hope that your message gets across to innocent minds lol
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Permalink Reply by Xenia on
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Yeah, i hope so too hun..
(And that people read the third line VERY well) :]
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Permalink Reply by MeRfY* on -
(This goes for every person not just one-Im not trying to hurt people or something like that-Dont twist what I say-Im only giving my advice on some issues that were said and addressed its only my in take on this-so dont get all mean to me about -=] ok?)
Im not saying cheating is good, but you need to think of both sides. How do i put this to understand= one side is like leaving out a half a story?
I dont know if anyone understood that but, People have there reasons for doing it. And you can be angry for them.But you still love them. And you have to let that emotion go. Now if someone wants to be a swinger and date several people then they need to address the fact and not lie about it. To warn people that's what they want and if you don't like it then try someone new. But if people address they like friends with befits then lying wouldn't have to hurt so bad,
I dont know why a person cheats but they have their reasons. It takes two to screw something up. And somehow you both did it.Its just you didnt realize it sooner. That goes for anyone in three cuple two cuples what ever type of cuples your having it takes that amount of people to screw it all up. You dont have to realize it. The emotion of one person can be affected but one person may not know it.
Now I may not be accurate, because i dont know every single persons relationship problems.But i do know that you need to be above them and by not cheating.
And if you do one day you need to see that you gave your opinion about it one day and now you did it yourself.
See my point?
I dont know if i make annnnyyyy sense but if i did, good people understood-
Lol- Im not saying its good.but I mean you just need to understand,take a breather,and figure out whats wrong,
You either fix it or not.
Its all you can do- Just understand where their coming from=]
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Permalink Reply by Xenia on
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I think I understand most of it..
But I dont see his reason for doing it.. Or rather.. There's no reason for doing it.. (Btw, I wasn't the only one he cheated on.. Earlier he dated one of my friends and cheated on her too)
In this relationship it only took one to screw it up.. him..
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Permalink Reply by NAYxna on -
I wouldn't have gone for him the second time. My trust once lost is lost forever, and even if he did in fact love me, the relationship wouldn't have worked because once that something is broken, the whole charm of the relation is lost to me. I mean it's one thing to work through some issues, and one thing trying to get over him having cheated on me. And i did have that happen to me once.
Honestly, i admire your strength, i wouldn't have been able to deal so well with everything you have.
You have strong character. Good for you that you got rid of him especially like that :P (he deserved it)
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Permalink Reply by Xenia on
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Thx..
And I am told that I'm a strong person. Definately when it comes to revenge. ;)
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