Meredith is a princess and has no real home where people are trying to kill her. Anita is a vampire hunter and is dating all these powerful, and not so powerful, guys and is used to people trying to kill her.
I read both series too - but Meredith seriously annoys me. Just her thought pattern, and how she thinks just super makes me want to die. I honestly think that the Anita Blake series is way better.
I have a feeling that they are just too strong willed for a romantic relationship to work, just look at the disaster of a relationship between Anita and Richard. I mean Mich has a strong will but it works between him and Anita.
I definitely think Meredith has more problems than Anita. I mean her mother practically loathes her, her father was murdered, her aunt tried to drown her, her cousin tried to rape and kill her, and then she has no choice but to have sex with a bunch of guys she barely knows and some of which she used to fear so she can get pregnant and become queen.
But she knows most of them, and she loves a few of them. I just don't like Meredith. I don't like her character. Not to fond of it... Anita Blake is way better....